Why Do You Treat Your Son Like a Dog?
“Why do you snap at your son like he’s a dog or something?”.
She said it loud enough that everyone in the food court could hear it. Though her question was authentic, it was none of her business. This was inter-tribe dialogue that she wouldn’t understand.
As people, we’re hard-wired to communicate, but the heart of our communication is the desire to elicit a response from those we are trying to communicate with. We do or say something, and we want the other person to respond. We see Beleaf snap at his children in order for them to respond with their undivided attention.
This is no different than saying someone’s name or making a specific sound that is familiar to their tribe’s ears. Also, looking at Anaya, when she cries, she’s communicating something and wants her parents to respond to her. Right now she’s communicating to the best of her ability, so to improve that, she's been introduced to sign language (ASL).
When we have children, remember that communicating with them speaks to our desire for them to respond to us.
I want to encourage you as you communicate, try speaking the language of the listener. You may not have any children right now but everyone around you is an opportunity to prepare for your future.
John 10:27 - “My sheep listen to my voice; I know them, and they follow me.”
Questions of the Day
Do you think that snapping at children is wrong or insensitive?
Does your tribe of family or friends have a language of your own? I’d love to hear an example.
Think of someone in you haven’t spoken to in a while, and text them something filled with your love.
Communication can be expressed in many ways, find a healthy way that works for you.
Protect your life:
Communication with your tribe is an extension of your communication with the Father. He understands our frustrated looks and groans, but when we submit to the posture of prayer. He responds. May not be the answer we were looking for and may not be when we want him to but, He responds. Let's remember, never hesitate to express our thoughts and concerns to our Father. He cares and communication strengthens every relationship. I need to protect my life in this way as well.
Keep your network poppin:
Send this to someone who you know will benefit from this video or this message, along with a short encouraging text.
This is a collaborative effort between Beleaf in Fatherhood and Donte Allen.
Donte Allen is a Black Husband, Father, and Content creator, on a journey to become a full-time writer. He aspires to encourage and engage believers and parents with practical wisdom.